Because individuals with HPD tend to bore easily, they may quickly tire of routines, jobs, friends, and romantic partners. Their careers may reflect multiple zig-zags and abrupt stops-and-starts as they tend to move from job to job with little regret over lost opportunities.
They are typically incapable of being honest with others since they cannot be honest with themselves. Sadly, their lack of care for deep connections can leave friends and partners feeling frozen out and empty.
It’s important that both partners can validate each other’s feelings and accept responsibility. When your partner is upset, you should be able to understand why they feel that way and at least accept some part of the responsibility
The histrionic paradox is that these individuals often assume their relationships with others are much deeper and more intimate than they truly are. Because they have a limited understanding of self-intimacy or authenticity, they assume that even casual friends are “besties” or that all romantic partners or hook-ups are “soulmates.” Yet these relationships often lack substance.
While histrionic people may crave the same level of attention that narcissists do, the type of attention that satisfies them is markedly different from what narcissists seek.
Individuals with these characteristics consistently engage in behaviors designed to attract the attention of others, whether they are viewed as a hero who deserves exaltation or a victim who needs rescue.
Engages in inappropriate sexually seductive or provocative behavior to gain attention.
Similar to a total lack of fighting, a completely detached and superficial civility is often a sign that both partners have checked out. If your partner feels more like a roommate or acquaintance than someone with whom you have a high level of emotional intimacy, there is a substantial problem.
1. Engages in theatrical, performative behaviors and exaggerated expressions of emotion.
1. Considers relationships to be more intimate than they actually are.